I know that most of you who read this also read Misfit Cygnet's blog. If you don't I really recommend that you do! Misfit continually has topics on there that will prick you and make yourself ask the hard questions about yourself and your family.
Misfit's recent blog post as been one of those for me. For the last several weeks I have been thinking a lot about how we need to get the TV out of our house. Now we only use it for movies and we haven't had cable for 12 years. I'm also really good about saying no to my kids about when they ask to watch a movie. Still we had it and still it was staring at us. We had a small 13" that we would play the Wii on and we had a large 19" that was in our bedroom. We also had a spare 13" that I'm not sure where it came from.
I also realized that I was using it has a babysitter when I had to go out or when I was sick of the kids fighting. I wasn't letting them learn to "deal" with each other. They weren't learning to love each other unconditionally. On Sundays I let them turn on a movie half the time (of course it was always something like "Testaments" or "Legacy") but that was just because I wanted a day of rest from them. Not good.
I acutally hauled off the record/CD player while I was at it. It took too much space and I didn't want to dust it. I feel better already.
Now part of this really is a test. I want to see the difference that it brings into our home. To prove the Lord, an act of faith. We really didn't use it a lot, but it was still an idol in our room. I've since replaced that wall with our temple marriage certificate, a board about being a family forever and a picture from our wedding.
I did this once before with the Lego's. Despite the outcry that I had to my inbox about how virtuous Lego's were I put them up too just to see. See I did! My children's behavior changed immensely, and they started to act for themselves and not be acted upon. Imagination said, "Mom, I always use to think about Star Wars things. All day long, I couldn't ever stop. Since you put up the Lego's I've stopped thinking about them. Thanks mom." Today Determination built shapes with the geometric blocks (I got rid of the how-to manual four months ago) and he built some very symmetric amazing things. His exploration with those was a far wiser use of time than rebuilding a Lego ship for the tenth time and being upset that someone touched it. We've been Lego less since April 1. Really it made a difference.
Perhaps you think I'm stunting my children's growth? Perhaps you think that I'm over the top? All I know is that I've obeyed what I was suppose to and I did try the Lord and I'm going to again and I know that He will deliver me. It just feels better around here.